Kierkegaard

if one is truly to succeed in leading a person to a specific place, one must first and foremost take care to find him where he is and begin there. this is the secret in the entire art of helping. anyone who cannot do this is himself under a delusion if he thinks he is able to help someone else. in order truly to help someone else, I must understand more than he–but certainly first and foremost understand what he understands.